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UnCategorized This Valentines Day, are you hoping that your sweetheart will write words for the love song you’ve been waiting to hear? Are you busy shopping for the language of love that is bound to .municate the intensity of your true emotions? How couples talk with each other is a concrete example of differences between the sexes – and the conversational styles of women and men are often poles apart. Despite your partner’s ongoing support, you may find it difficult to speak about your deepest thoughts. Sometimes, when you just want your husband to listen to how you feel about a certain situation, do you find him intent on fixing the problem or finding a solution? Statistics indicate that one out of two marriages in the United States ends in divorce. As a safeguard to this institution, some couples sign a clearly delineated legal pre-nuptial contract. There are other non-verbalized agreements that impact the marriage, but are not .municated as directly. For example, "I earn more than you and that gives me greater control over major decisions" is often understood but not considered a topic for conversation. An increase in either trust or tension in the relationship eventually leads to the expression and resolution of these kinds of concerns, one way or the other. Still other decisions are unconscious, part of the psychological baggage that is carried forward from the family of origin or from previous relationships. For instance, "my father walked out on our family without an explanation so, when you’re quiet for too long, I get scared" can be an old script left over from childhood. Shaped by earlier experiences and well hidden by defense mechanisms, these entrenched beliefs often continue to drive individual attitudes and behaviors. Discover the benefit of bringing these emotional influences to conscious awareness. At this time of year, when so much love is in the air, use the following five tips and let your heart do the talking: 1.Pay attention to the positives in your relationship by noticing the qualities that bring you pleasure. Discuss these with your partner from time to time. And review them often for yourself. 2.When talking quietly together, be willing to reveal your own personal needs and opinions so that he has some access to your subjective world. Encourage him to do the same with you. 3.Opposites attract. Genuine mutuality thrives on recognizing the differences in how you .municate. When it’s impossible to respect and honor what sets you apart, find the humor and fall back on laughter. 4.Create a balance between caring for your personal needs and the well being of your relationship. Take time out of your busy schedules each day to connect and converse about the ways to nourish both. 5.Reduce the stress in your lives in order to enjoy fuller and deeper conversations. A change in attitude can make your partner more responsive to you and to your needs. Couples who practice conversational etiquette be.e more skillful in listening than in advice giving. Over time, many discover that a .mitment to understanding each other’s position goes a long way. As Indira Gandhi, the former Prime Minister of India, so wisely said, "You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist." Learning to recognize the differences in how Donna and her husband evaluate and work through problems has made their relationship stronger. She reflected, "We now resolve conflict by trying to see what the other one wants. We’ll go around what we can’t agree on and make every effort to reach a .promise. It has taken us years, but we’ve both grown to value our relationship more than being right." On February 14th, mark your calendar as the first day of the rest of your lives. Cast a love spell as you celebrate your relationship. And .mit to nurture a heartfelt connection with your partner through the gift of conversation. (C) Her Mentor Center, 2007 About the Author: 相关的主题文章:

Fancy A Change Of Career Why Not Try Carbon Coaching-quickchm

Careers-Employment Dave Hampton believes he has found his purpose now he has be.e the carbon coach. In this article he explores where his sooty bus is going! What is a carbon coach? In July 2005 I left a near perfect job, Director of a successful consultancy (ABS consulting) to set up in business as The Carbon Coach. My mission (and it is mission possible!) is to coach celebs and influential individuals: to help them prosper and feel good by shrinking their lifestyle carbon footprint for real (the tonnage of carbon dioxide emissions that their households travel and energy is responsible for.) I hold their hand while they change a (energy efficient) light bulb! How does it work? I aim to rapidly raise peoples awareness of their direct carbon impacts on the environment. The people I coach actively want to change, but are busy and dont know where to start. I usually arrange to meet them at their home, and quickly assess their carbon footprint from energy bills, travel data a few simple questions. Then I will discuss with them the ways they have considered reducing it at this initial stage its very broad-brush stuff. Who is using a carbon coach? There are plenty of chief executives, .pany directors, politicians, celebs, neighbours even, who want to know their carbon footprint their tonnage. I also provide this same carbon advice for a business, and for its employees. When individuals .mit to making a difference in their home lifestyle, and experience the joy of shedding a tonne or two, first hand, they go on to positively influence their corporate situation.. What size should somebody’s carbon footprint be? Wherever you start is ok. After all, most of us are living in ignorance of the number. The top-down average carbon footprint for each of us in the UK is about 11 tonnes per year. (Total UK tonnes divided by population.) The 50 % of the footprint that I focus on is home energy and home travel. This bit averages around 5 tonnes p.a. per person. The lifestyle of a captain of industry however, is such that a footprint as high as 60 tonnes is perfectly .mon. can be simple, such as a change of car or switching to a green electricity tariff that guarantees the electricity .es from renewable sources, or they can be a bit trickier. But changes get to happen. Part of what I bring is urgency and tenacity. The problem (climate change) isnt going to go away so why should I! Have you changed your lifestyle? Yea, but .pared to some Im a late developer. I didnt take my personal impact on the environment anywhere near seriously enough until about five years ago. Now my five-bedroom house in Marlow has a solar panel (thermal and PV, so totally autonomous), a light-pipe, super-insulation, whole house MVHR ventilation, passive-solar conservatory and a wood-burning stove. My family of six has a .bined carbon footprint of 9 tonnes including our two cars and all holiday travel. 1.5 tonnes each. Carbon Coaching is a huge opportunity. Basically, by 2050 every UK citizen needs to have slimmed down from 5 tonnes a year to around 0.5 tonne or were stuffed. So we need a lot of coaches, and a lot of coaching. And the best way to learn is to practice on yourself! Kinda neat huh?! About the Author: 相关的主题文章:

How To Create A Fun Reception-windjview

Food-and-Drink Anyone who has ever attended a marriage reception knows they have a tendency to be boring, stuffy and not all that fun. Receptions often feel canned and depending on where it is held, it may look like every other reception that has ever happened throughout time. If you are planning your reception and you want something that is unique and personalized, there are a few things you can do. Your first goal should be to make sure everyone has fun. Planning a reception is essentially planning a party and you want the event to be as .fortable and entertaining as possible. Make sure you have plenty of great food for everyone to eat. You can contact wedding catering or BBQ catering for a laid-back, casual meal that tastes delicious and will fill your guests up. Nobody wants to go home hungry from a reception and nothing is more filling than delicious tasting, stick to your ribs meat. If you think having your reception in a standard hall is your only option, think again. There are plenty of great locations that can suit any budget and any style. Look for something that will be .fortable for your guests and take into consideration how many people will be attending and how much you want to spend. Great reception venues include parks, farms, museums and .munity centers. You can turn any space into something great, so even if you are on a tight budget, do not rule out a place before you consider how you can make it fun and suitable. Those who want to keep their guests engaged in the festivities should plan games or social activities to keep everyone entertained. Not everyone will want to participate, but those who get bored just sitting around or who do not like dancing may enjoy other activities. Offering the option of unusual or unexpected fun at a reception really makes the event a memorable occasion. For those who do love dancing, be sure to provide plenty of great music. Regardless of whether your reception has a band, DJ or you just load up the CD changer, be sure there are plenty of dance tunes and a place to get moving. Mix together everyone’s favorite dance songs with modern music that the younger generation will enjoy. Do not panic if you loathe some of the classic songs played at receptions that are affiliated with organized dances. There is no rule stating you have to play anything you cannot stand. It is your day, so you make the call. Finally, be sure you are .fortable and relaxed during the reception so others can do the same. The more fun the bride and groom are having, the easier it will be for everyone else to let loose and have a great time. If you need a few drinks to loosen yourself up, go ahead and have a couple of drinks. Try to avoid having too much though because you want to remember your big day once it is all over with. About the Author: 相关的主题文章:

Scottdales Mccormick Ranch Real Estate Offers It

Real-Estate Considered by many to be one of the largest planned community developments in the country, McCormick Ranch is a model for mixed-use development. Encompassing approximately seven square miles of prime real estate in Scottsdale, Arizona, McCormick Ranch was once the site of one of Scottsdales last big Arabian horse ranches. Flattered by a just-right hint of California dcor and design ambience, the homes in McCormick Ranch boast lush grass, tall towering trees and mature shrubbery. Styles range from beautiful single-family homes to luxury estates to gorgeous waterfront properties nestled next to one of the seven manmade lakes scattered throughout the community. In addition, McCormick Ranch is home to golf course villas, townhomes, condominiums and patio homes…in other words, truly something for everyone and every lifestyle. Winding alongside luxuriant greenbelts, some 25 miles of bicycle paths are a much-loved part of McCormick Ranch, so taking a leisurely ride, walk or stroll through the community is always a pleasure. If fishing is what tickles your fancy, no problem Camelback Lake is stocked for fishing and sailing is permitted on both Camelback Lake and Lake Margherite. A number of homes snuggled around these lakes even enjoy boat docks, and its important to note that the lakes and greenbelt are not just for show theyre also designed as part of the communitys water drainage system. Golfers love McCormick Ranch because it has two 18-hole golf courses that mirror the landscape of many of the communitys homes lush tree-lined fairways and a wealth of emerald-green grass. Both courses were designed by Desmond Muirhead and as its name implies, the Palm Course is graced with lots of soaring palm trees. This show-off course has ten water holes and the experts advice for the signature hole, number nine, is simple: A long iron fairway wood is your best choice, since a hard-hit drive will run you right through the island fairway. Meanwhile, the Pine Course is host to numerous mature pine trees that remind many residents of the Midwest. One of the favorite holes on this course is number 15, which is McCormick Ranch’s number-one handicap hole, featuring an island fairway and green. Experts advice: Aim your shot with just the right amount of power, because any shot over the green will find the water. A little history: In the mid-1940s, Merle Cheney sold a lot of the real estate that became McCormick Ranch to Fowler and Anne McCormick, who wanted to use the 4,200-acre ranch as a winter home. Fowlers grandfathers were Cyrus McCormick, inventor of the grain reaper, and John D. Rockefeller; Fowler himself went on to become president and chairman of the board of International Harvester. The McCormicks combined the parcel with other large amounts of acreage they had purchased to create a working ranch that raised Black Angus cattle. Anne was the primary overseer of the ranch’s operation and she was also responsible for bringing Arabian horses to Scottsdale. In fact, today, one of McCormick Ranch’s major throughways is named Arabian Trail. In the summer of 1970, a short time after Annes death, a portion of the land was sold to Kaiser-Aetna; the company later sold off 1,120 acres, a huge parcel that became what is now known as Scottsdale Ranch. About the Author: 相关的主题文章: